Don’t stop being fashionable in your 40’s

Updated: Nov 22, 2019

For some reason as we age there is this assumption in society that women have to change how they dress. We are bombarded with messages that mature women should tone down their style. You may even notice that some women, as they get older, cut their hair—as if long hair is only for younger women. Well I’m here to champion style for the 40-something woman!

A black woman walking in a leopard print dress. she is smiling

You can be fashionable and stylish and still be a mature, professional woman. The reason I love fashion so much is because clothing is a means of expression. How you dress says a lot about you to others. It's one of the reasons we were taught that you only get to make a first impression once. The fact of the matter is that our daily life involves clothes—we cannot leave the house and go about our daily business without them. What you wear speaks volumes the moment you enter a room. I hate to admit that as a society we are superficial, but we are, and your visual presence matters.

Black woman laughing and wearing street style fashion


There is no reason to let style go just because you are in your 40’s, because you're swamped in your career, because you're juggling your kids after-school activities—or because you’ve already snagged a husband. When we look good we feel good. When was the last time you put on a new dress? A new pair of Fall boots? A sparkly new necklace? What we wear either sparks joy or dread. I encourage you to wear things that spark joy and make you feel good. Most importantly, you should embrace fashion and style for YOURSELF!


Nothing is off limits when it comes to Cultivating life—that includes fashion and style. Cultivating style simply means being conscious and self-aware of how you dress. What does your outfit say when you walk into your child’s school to advocate for them? Will anyone take you seriously based on how you are dressed? What does your outfit say when you walk into an interview for your dream job? Does it convey that you are a professional who knows her stuff? What does your outfit convey when you are out with your significant other? Does it convey that you are proud to be with them or are you just going through the motions?

So what if you’ve already let it all go? Don’t worry! All hope is not lost. Follow these three steps to cultivate your fashionable style:

1. Go through your closet and get rid of anything you haven’t worn in at least a year, anything that is too small or too big, and anything that just doesn’t make you happy. You can either donate these clothes, or do what I do and sell them on Poshmark to make a little extra money. If you decide to go this route use my Invite Code: POSHYMELISSA to sign up to receive a $10 credit to purchase something stylish on Poshmark.

Woman wearing street style in a leopard print wrap dress

2. Create a Pinterest board of styles you love! Keep it simple and think about pieces that are classic and will last past the current season. For example, pant suits, dress suits, skirts, dresses, blazers, jeans, sweaters, flattering tops, boots, flats, and a pair of comfortable shoes like fashion sneakers.

3. Go shopping! Be intentional about buying clothing pieces that are stylish. Most importantly look for items that make you feel good and will allow you to present yourself to the world confidently.

This leopard print dress makes me happy and keeps me stylish. I love it because I can layer it and wear it multiple ways. It can be dressed up with a blazer, worn by itself, or layered with a mock neck sleeveless sweater dress like the one I'm wearing here:

Where are you on your 40-something style journey? Do you feel you've let things go in the style department or do you still dress fashionable in your 40's? Let's chat about it. Post in the blog comments below. I would love to hear from you!





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